Welcome to slocialite.com's Guide to Being a Socialite. Learn how to break into the fabulous world of living the high life and being admired by others. Want to be a socialite? Just follow these tips on how to be a socialite:

Duh. Being a socialite by definition means being social. So talk to people every chance you get. You'll be making new acquaintances and friends, and building up your social capital will take you to places you could never imagine. Throw and go to as many parties as possible, meet new people, and introduce yourself to those you don't know. Make friends, hang out with them, and in no time, you'll be greeted by every other person you see downtown. You'll be a star when everyone knows who you are.

As a socialite, you are going out to be seen, so you must always look perfect. Wear the latest couture. Accessorize with giant sunglasses and tasteful jewelry. Ensure color coordination. Check that your hair is just right. Put on some nice cologne or perfume, but not too much; you don’t want to be a walking version of an Abercrombie and Fitch store. Sloppiness is also a definite no-no.

Whether you are shopping, eating out, drinking or partying, you must be seen going out all the time, as if you never have to work. Socialites must constantly be taking in forms of entertainment, especially in the evening and nighttime. Be sure to bar-hop and attend lots of parties.

Walk down the city streets and promenades as if you were a supermodel displaying the latest haute couture down the runway. Your sexiness as a hot socialite should exude from every step. Don’t be afraid to show your attitude!

When you are promenading about downtown, always be carrying a designer handbag or clutch, a Starbucks drink (but never in the venti size – you don’t want to look as if you’re going to blubber about some recent tragedy over a thousand calories - and never in the tall size because you don't want to look cheap), or shopping bags from various boutiques. However, don’t carry too much stuff. As someone of class, shouldn’t you have someone carry stuff for you in such an event?

You want to be seen, so pick outdoor seating by busy walkways and promenades. People will be more likely to see you and which expensive establishments you’re dining at. However, don’t pick this option when the weather is poor outside. As a socialite, you deserve better than to eat your $30 shrimp cocktail in an El Niño storm.

Where do people socialize? At clubs and bars. So go out and be seen at these establishments (guide to San Luis Obispo's nightlife). Drink a bit to be sociable, but you don’t want to drink so much that you become a train wreck of Lindsay Lohan proportions. Being lively and chatty while slightly buzzed? Hot. Vomiting on the sidewalk and babbling incoherencies while sloshed? Not hot.

Besides being seen, being a socialite is all about being heard. It’s important to talk to many people so they know who you are. And you want to be a memorable person. People enjoy being made to laugh, so brush up on your humor and let out the occasional pop culture reference. Tell amusing tales of your crazy life experiences. But beware of becoming a bore or talking too much. Nobody likes someone who can’t shut up, like an overly chatty British person.

Being a socialite may seem superficial, but you don’t want to be considered an idiot in your lofty social circles, where people are educated at boarding schools and Ivy League colleges. Brush up on your trivia and be able to carry on a conversation.

Ever seen “The Devil Wears Prada”? Don’t go overboard with the meanness because then you won’t have friends, but a little bite to your commentary in the right spirit can spice things up. Backhanded compliments are great, too. "That dress will really get people talking." "Wow, you've really taken the initiative to put some meat on your bones." "You've really cleaned up since I last saw you." Sometimes outright bitchiness is warranted, though, when people really go out of bounds: "Perez Hilton, you are a disgusting fat-ass."

Those in the “in-crowd” have their own lingo. You must know the latest slang and phrases. Create some of your own slang as well, and make it exclusively yours. Some hints: Shorten words, use phrases from foreign languages, and use descriptive and metaphoric language. Examples: “That’s ridic.” “Quoi? Qu'est-ce que c'est?” “Style and Class, 1; Kevin Federline, 0”

You want to be talked about, but mostly in a good way. Learn how to win arguments and make yourself come out on top in the end. However, even if there’s negative talk, the more people talk about you, the more powerful you become.

Don't become, um, conceited, but do act with confidence and poise. Remember all the little people who helped you get to where you are. And a dose of humbleness can make you all the more likeable. Great lines, said with a dose of irony: "I didn't ask to be famous. I was just at the right place at the right time. It would have been so selfish for me to withhold my natural talents from the world."

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